Can you forgive?  In 1 Corinthians 13, the apostle Paul writes, "Love bears all things, believes all things, endures all things."  Regardless of how we feel about a person or a wrong act which that person may have committed, we are to bear, we are to believe.  We are to believe in kindness, we are to believe in the worth of our fellow human being, we are to believe in God.
     As we must:  it is God's presence that makes forgiveness possible.  If God did not exist, forgiveness could not exist, either.  Without God, as even one who does not believe readily points out, we live in an utterly amoral universe:  there's no way to know real right, there's no way to know real wrong.  Neither love nor hate mean anything, anything at all.  We don't even know what pain and hurt are.  How can we define, much less know them other than our own subjective experience?
     Indeed--and ironically--when we forgive, when we let go of our resentment and anger, when we step out of our pain, when we decide that we can move on, we in fact affirm the reality of something bigger than we, the fact of a larger force in the universe, a greater presence in the cosmos.  We affirm the reality of God.
     And a love greater than we can possibly imagine.